The decompression from my trip to Asia continues. I have read through ~8000 items in my newsreader and discarded almost all of them (despite much interest in solving the problem, no one has built a machine that has any idea about what content needles I want out of the media haystack).
However, one item caught my interest (although I can't remember where I saw it): someone asked their readers how many secret sites/blogs they maintained. That is, sites that no one knows you're the author of (written anonymously or with a nom de plume) or sites to which the general public does not have access. If I remember correctly, a large number of the respondents not only maintained a secret site, but had several. I have one secret blog, published under my own name, that only a small group of friends can read. I just started it recently (after learning that several friends have been doing this for awhile) and don't update it very often. How about you...any secret sites? Why keep them on the down-low?
I have one secret blog and I keep it secret because all my friends, family, acquaintances and everyone I ever met in school reads my public blog and it gets sort of frustrating.
my LJ is where I write stuff on topics that I've said I wouldn't (work/husband), but that I have to write or my brain will explode. all the verboten topics go friends-only, and I don't use my name.
http://www.livejournal.com/stc/promote/otherjournal.jpg
No one IRL knows about it. I keep it for me.
It's a secret because sometimes the word is something like "ASSHOLE" and the word links to someone I think is an asshole.
There is some sort of power game going on. I think we usually blog for legitimation by our peers, and anything which moves us too far away from this "real world" will usually not be maintained.
So I have an anonymous site where I can write about work without fear of retribution.
I find it interesting that many of you have your friends and family reading your blogs... My family barely knows how to open their web browser... my friends could care less what I write on my page (I'd be surprised if they even knew my URL).
I recently started a new anonymous blog where its out there, but I stay anonymous, for a variety of reasons that I had to detail on the blog. I blog about life being gay and Christian, so I choose to stay anonymous so my family, who still is coming to grips with that combination, isn't assaulted with "oh what's he doing NOW." I also want people to read the content without thinking "oh this is that guy I grew up with bla bla bla." Lastly, there are many many gay Christians who feel trapped into anonymity, and its kind of metaphorical for me to speak out, anonymously, for them.
i finally converted to no google, no search engines, all robots out, password-access the past year. reason? about the 4th or 5th time someone found out about my site (despite i used pseudonyms) and totally ripped into me for talking about them (again, despite i used pseudonyms)... i finally realized, hmm, before i alienate any more potential friends/lovers, maybe i should face reality. now just have 5-10 people i know and trust who read my journal regularly. i don't talk about them in my journal.
there just is no way i can talk about complaints i have about a lover's intelligence or sexual performance and do it publicly, and not expect that person to 1) find out about it and 2) hate me forever.
But what I really like about private blogs is that even my totally non-geeky friends will post on them. It's like they suddenly understand the appeal of the internet, when the only people on it are their friends.
The MovableType login/password is posted for anyone to use.
I had pondered making a secret site, but in the end decided I really didn't have that much to be secret about. But I built Anonyblog for people that do want to get stuff off their chest.
Not too many problems with people doing bad things, except the comment spammers.
Then I made a few mistakes and people from my real life tracked down my secret site, so I shut it down. I don't really miss it.
The second one was a secret identity known only to a few friends and was, in all reality, a pornographic diary. I just couldn't include that stuff in the first one after it went public. It is actually currently being considered for publication as a "fictional" work, even though it's definitely NOT fiction.
I had to get another secret diary for my darkest thoughts so I wouldn't alarm my friends and family after the first one became common knowlege.
Then came the "flog," food blog. Having been a chef at one time, I just couldn't help myself. Cooking, restaurant reviews and food discussions have always been a part of the original Calichef. It was really more for public consumption, a place to link to from things like this.
Then there was the blog that I started while I was attempting to be half of a "serious" couple because we had communications problems. It would have worked, had I not been the only one committed to the relationship and his entries not been nothing but a pack of lies.
I've now come full-circle with a single Blogger site that attempts to integrate myself back into one blog with total honesty. Although, I don't put much energy into it, and the original still has most of my attention.
However, when I have an erotic encounter I want to write about, I go to the porn blog, a restrauant review, the flog (eventually) gets it, and if something is really needing to get out that needs more than one topic to say it all, it goes to the secret blog @ Blogger.
I also have kind of 'swearing blog' where I posted annonymously, not password protected or anything, but just leave it there, and when I felt the need, I posted alot of swearing, caplocks, exclaimation points, stupid images I found on the net, and everything else that deem unsuitable for public viewing, just for kicks.
Why do you keep yours on the down-low? ;-)
* I'm currently dating and don't want what I write associated for me.
* I work for a company that severely limits what I can and can't say about things.
Now that I've mentioned these things, perhaps it's best I sign this comment under said nom-de-plume.
When one gets into a long-term relationship, and one's partner witnesses you scribbling furiously and angstfully into a paper journal every night -- it can lead to trouble. Nobody knows my secret blog address.
Plus, my employer reads my current site, and managers call me in to talk to me about posts they don't like. Even though I disclose nothing confidential, and I have every right to say things like, "I feel like nobody is pitching in on this project."
for example, i used a private installation of the excellent blogware antville to keep a kind of project journal. at the moment i use a usemod wiki in its place. neither is more than a glorified notebook program with hyperlinking capability.
as i see it, wanting to keep something secret is only one reason for not making certain pieces of information public. more often i just can't imagine that whatever i just wrote down could be useful for a single other person in the whole world, so i decide not to pollute the 'net with it.
lately, at several occasions when i discovered something on the web or in the TV schedule, i caught myself looking at the online contacts in my IM app and sending a message about it to all those who i thought might be interested. this is pretty much, but not quite, the same thing as a secret mini-blog that my friends have hooked into their FeedTickers. obviously neither method is the perfect way to distribute such information (and filter it out when it's not appropriate), so i'm still contemplating what to do about that.
Perhaps there's a distinction between, "This is my secret blog which nobody must associate with me" and what I've got, which is more like, "This is some writing that shouldn't be construed as having an intended audience." The first type sometimes has a clear audience, and is written with the intention of having it read by people outside the author's normal circle of acquaintance (or perhaps read by only very intimate acquaintances). The second type different. It exists only for the writing, for the author to express themselves. It's not meant to convey an opinion, be clever, witty, controversial or intriguing. It's not designed for reading at all.
I'm thinking that the unfettered Web is probably not the place for my 'secret' blog.
Pat Freestone, fictional blogger, but somehow imdb figured out the author.
One is very political and would anger my very right leaning company and on the other I can complain about work a bit.
I don't hide them too much though. Anyone could do a whois to find that its me, but I rely on my company's computer ignorance to never find them.
Of course it is all very well to have a secret site, just remember that whois for your domain might reveal your identify. Not so secret are we now?
So best to roll with livejournal or blogger...
It's kind of like Pretty Good Privacy. Coworkers and employers could never find it, but a regular (or motivated) visitor to my public sites might be able to guess.
Also, I keep a private page of employment resources (resume/references, etc) which is protected by robot.txt .
BTW, people really need to watch out for Google's ability to take personal data (phone numbers/ssn/address/email) from .doc and .pdf files and make them available via html.
I did a diaryland diary a long time ago but the free webhost removed it (although they made it available to me after some prodding). Also, abandoned weblogs (of which I have a few) tend to get next-to-no traffic except for comment spammers.
Danah Boyd once made the remark that privacy is impossible on the web. True, but for all practical purposes obscurity is just as good. Unless you''ve done something to be covered on cnn.com or slashdot, nobody is going to take the effort to find out who you are.
I keep a "secret" blog because I have done several open journal/blog projects and those can be very satisfying: to write for an audience and get feedback. However, I needed a place to keep interesting links, to write small snippets about topics of interest to me right now and to record random stuff. It is too sloppy and lacking in context for me to want the public or friends reading it. I mean, I don't care if they do, but they won't find it from me. Then I'd feel compelled to be compelling and I don't have the time or energy for that right now.
I love the links that Jason posts here -- many of them go in my "secret" blog to remember them. However, I've often thought how unfortunate it is that there is not more of a "journal" here which reveals more of the person. Now I understand why; he's sharing elsewhere! Too bad for us.
Why secret? Perhaps because my Harriet-the-Spy notebook of many years past was casually thumbed through by my Grade Seven crush? Nah. I'd have to concur that, like a lot of people here, I started writing for an audience. Material that isn't up to par often gets deleted or simply never makes it up. Also, my "audience" is mostly my friends, so of course that's another restraint.
I tried keeping a secret Word file, but that was no fun.
But then I got bored and quit.
http://everythingisbackwards.blogspot.com/
It's been a while since I updated it. But I published on it when I was in a new relationship, and it got off to a bumpy start. I was scared I'd get really hurt. In order to sort out how I felt, I published on the secret blog. I didn't want it linked to my real blog -- after publishing a personal site for 11 years, I'm much more careful about what I'll post -- but it felt really good to have someplace where I could bundle up my personal thoughts and leave them there.
haven't updated in awhile though: http://thetech.frihost.net/blog
comic (still in beta): http://thetech.frihost.net/comic
I've always been fascinated with the differences between private and public space, particularly on the Internet.
If one views Internet space as 'virtual,' the analogy for me is the private and public space in virtual reality, like Disneyland. At Disneyland, there's the places everyone can go, and then there are the exclusive areas - places where people get dressed, put on costumes, a private club or two...
I would think Internet private areas wouldn't be much different, but most people are okay with getting changed into their costume in public, it appears, thus we have porn and blogs.
I initially tried writing such things in a paper notebook (a Moleskine, I'm such a trendwhore), but I gave up on that. I was holding back and not saying what I really wanted to say, mostly out of fear of someone reading it behind my back.
With LiveJournal, I can write what I want to write, as well as what I need to write, with little to no fear of someone figuring out it's me.
I've not given the URL to any friends, not even my best friend.
Even best friends do stupid or harmful things at times.
I used to write very personal entries about my life and my work. After I lost two jobs and several friends, I removed all the personal stuff and forced myself to write about entertainment and current events.
Now my blog is so boring, no one reads it at all.
But to answer the question about private web space, I have one Friends-Only Livejournal that I've kept for about three years now, and I have one that I only ever post to privately - period. It's my 'rant and rave' space, where I practive electronice primal scream.
And then, aside from all that, I keep notes filed away in my Yahoo and Gmail accounts, things I've written, never intending to send them. Often they get trasnferred to my LJ, but sometimes they just sit in email
I started the site called www.partySpotters.com just to secretly take photos of people in clubs and bars and I used to upload them to www.partyspotters.com
I had over 2000 pictures. But one day I got an email from a girl asking me to take down her picture from my website... HUH?
It was a secret site.. how did she find it? Anyway now the site has become a clubbers portal where anyone can uplaod thier photos from cubs - but guess what.... I've started another secret site
This time Im going to take photos of random people on the streets - maybe a few candid ones - like peeping tom ... the website is not going to be a dot com - maybe thats where i made my mistake.
www.partyspotters.com has developed into a monster - thats not what it was meant for.. it was only for my eyes... its all wrong - its unfair. I want my secret back... :(
I've also had a friend who kept his blog password-protected, but also kept the password in his Keychain. A friend was using his laptop for an essay he had to write, starting going online, and needless to say he read the secret blog.
No one I know is any longer friends with that guy.
The sad thing is, it's much better written than my unsecret blog, perhaps because I know it will only be judged by some random Brit.
Hello, Lancaster.
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